As LA Idiot readers learned last week, 
I am smitten with a girl that I met through Twitter. It seems very odd to say that out loud. Especially because we’ve both decided to give this a fair shake and not pursue other romantic partners. Through Twitter conversations with @SageStella, I realized that I’m not the only one who is attempting to connect romantically with someone over Twitter, no matter the distance. @SageStella is in a similar situation with someone on Twitter, though not quite as intense of a situation as I have entered. Here is her account of her situation with non-traditional online dating.
As I have been following the on-going saga/dramedy/reality blogging romance of one LAIdiot and the object of his affection, #LawyerGirl, I began to ponder my own twitter crushes, flirtations and my less-than-stellar luck in this department. Let me speak to you on the flip side of the internet crush coin.
First off, I didn’t get involved with Twitter to “meet” someone or even really make friends. It’s been a vehicle to promote the blog I have with a couple of dear friends – shout out: Super Blogettes. We remain anonymous (believe me my avatar is much hotter than my real-life persona). But in striking up conversations of sorts I “met” all types of interesting people via Twitter and actually become interested in having relationships of sorts. I got to “witness” one tweep’s journey from preggers to mommy via tweets and delighted and seeing twit pics of the new addition to my Twitter family.
And then of course, there’s boys. I like boys. I have been single for two years and have become a re- born boy crazy tween! It’s really quite ridiculous. And I soon developed some actual twitter crushes. Mostly the innocent types but then again I’m a girl. Suddenly I’m checking my DM over and over because my twit crush, I’ll call him #JerseyBoy.
Jersey Boy is elusive. I am the (stupid) type of girl that falls for that crap. Like the chase etc. Twitter has provided the ultimate outlet for something that’s safe/not-quite-real. But ultimately Jersey Boy is the kind of guy I look for in real life. He’s funny and quirky. While I feel silly saying it- I can see that he has a good heart and he’s kind and caring. Has his own interests that differ from mine. He’s a dork, which I love. First time I saw his picture my thought was “yep that makes sense”- he has the “look” of someone I’d date and who I see myself with. I guess I could never say never to getting serious with someone I met via Twitter but unlike LA Idiot, I keep letting the voice of logic creep back. Similar to LA Idiot and #LawyerGirl, #JerseyBoy is on the other side of the country. I can’t get past this, ultimately I think this is just something to pass the time. What if he did live here? I’d probably be singing a different tune and having a real Twitmance of my own.
Why am I getting my emotions tangled up in the world of cyber romance? I’ve avoided sites like Match.com for quite some time and figured that romance would just… happen …like it did before. I think my online boyfriend obsession stems from my fear of getting into an actual relationship. The last two did a real number on me. And as my Twitter crush resides safely over 2,000 miles away I’m free to flirt, be myself, and put myself “out there.” Or maybe deep down I’m hoping I’ll get one of those one-in-a-million real connections like what LAIdiot may have stumbled upon. Like he said…. it would make a great love story.
- @SageStella
The majority of people think of online dating as Match.com and eHarmony.com. However, Twitter (and Facebook) might be revolutionizing how we meet our romantic partners. Both @SageStella and I didn’t seek out romance through our Twitter accounts, but we both some how found romantic interests. Even though our Twitmances seem to be diverging in final outcomes, it’s an interesting topic to broach. Have you ever had a romance begin with Twitter? Would you be open to the possibility? How do you feel about finding someone through Twitter as opposed to traditional dating sites? @SageStella and I would love to hear your responses! @singlegirlslike will chime in on Friday with her opinions on internet dating.
Is #JerseyBoy from Jersey? I’m from Jersey. Maybe I know him. Or maybe I am him. In a day where trans-gender is common, don’t rule it out.
ANYWAY.
I think Blogging is really a place that love connections are starting to happen. I think I might disagree with the Facebook claim, because it’s so personal. It’s almost like putting all of your personal information out there once you become “friends”. Granted, there are filters, but who filters a potential love interest? Seems not-so-personal.
But Blogging – being able to read others’ thoughts, feelings, and takes on different life situations, following people through journeys, sharing joys and fears and sadness…hell, you’d have to be a robot to not fall in love with people everyday.
I’m a hardass and I fall in love every five freakin’ minutes.
I hope #JerseyBoy and #LawyerGirl work out for you guys, or at least give you both what you’re looking for
I hope so too! So far so good. Lots of texts, tweets, and phone calls
I met my wife through yahoo profiles and that weird conversations thing they used to have. That was 10 years ago. We’ve been married for over 8. I say go for it!
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Thanks for the comments and @LAIdiot for posting this serious/softer (?) side of Stella- *blogger chest bump*
Dangit I always hoped Stella had a crush on me but I’m not from jersy and not a boy
… lolz seriously I know of one couple who met through twitter and they couldn’t be more perfect for each other…. I say go for it.
P.S. when I think of Stella I get a major boner. xo
Holy moley. Yes. Guilty as charged. This has happened to me a couple of times. Of which I won’t say any more on the matter (read my post about why I don’t blog about certain guys for a more elaborate reason on WHY).
But I will say this:
Twitter has single-handedly revolutionized my relationships – friendships, crushes, dates – in a way I never would have predicted when I first created my account some 6+ months ago.
And now I’M thinking of posting on this. See how that works? Thanks for the inspiration, LA Idiot, and good luck with #LawyerGirl!
Also, @SageStella is AWESOME. I just hope that this #JerseyBoy is as hot as Aziz, that’s all I’m saying.
Here I was, reprimanding @SageStella for having late-night twitter sex. Little did I know I was stifling a would-be/could-be romance! Go forth and #twitsex my friends!
Jeez – it’s like you’re reading my mind. I’ve developed a serious twitter crush which I’m actually trying to work through. Fortunately he’s nowhere near me. In real life we probably wouldn’t ever hang out, I’d just semi-worship him from afar.
But, it’s still fun to dream. *sigh*
Look at that! I’m not the only one falling in lust all over twitter. @AvaApollo shall never admonish my #twittercrushes again!
A community is a community. Whether you find someone on a dating site, twitter, a blog or wherever – what’s meant to be will find it’s way. I’m a fan of online dating, and making friends online, even though most of my longtime friends and family don’t get it. I’ve met the best people online – including a wonderful guy.
You keep going – good things are coming your way. I just know it.
Thanks everyone for your great comments! It’s great to read about other people’s experiences with this. Can’t wait for @singlegirlslike’s post.
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